Sunday, August 30, 2015

Stony Hearts

Many people are walking around with stony hearts. Sometimes, these stony hearts are caused by past regrets, past situations or past heart breaks. Usually anger, hurt, bitterness or betrayal can cause stony hearts. We should have been treated better. We deserved to be born into a better home. We worked hard for that promotion, but somebody less deserving got it. There are all kinds of situations that “motivate” some people to keep walking around with stony hearts.

I personally know people who have walked around for years with stony hearts. Instead of working through past difficulties, overcoming them and forgiving others, they have chosen to live a life of anger, hurt and bitterness. It would have been easier to bust out of Alcatraz than to bust through their stony hearts. The walls are built so high that no amount of love and kindness would even begin to put a dent in their hearts because they refuse to allow it. However, with God all things are possible, even busting through these types of walls and hearts. I have personally seen that happen as well.

Case in point. I have spoken at Teen Challenge (an international Christian-based drug and alcohol in house rehab program) locally for about three years now, sharing my testimonies and encouraging these young men that no matter what they have been through, God is bigger and they too can be overcomers. There was one young man in particular whom I will never forget. I first saw him sitting in a chapel service I spoke at about two years ago. He had the look of a rock hard Marine chiseled on his face. I knew without a doubt that this was the last place he wanted to be at that moment, in a chapel service. He stared straight ahead and his eyes and tight-lipped mouth did not move an inch. When I stood next to him, I felt a negative presence within him which was intimidating, to say the least.

As I left, I could not get this young man out of my mind. I kept seeing his face and remembering the uneasiness I felt when standing next to him, almost as if I had been at the gates of Alcatraz. I firmly believe that God laid this young man on my heart for a very specific purpose, and I began to pray for him by name and that God would reach through his stony heart and break him out of this hard wall he had built around himself. I began to have a burden for this young man that brought me to tears as I prayed for him. I knew without a doubt that God wanted me to reach out to him and pray for him by name.

A few Sundays later, this group of men came to our evening church service. I went up to this young man and spoke to him, telling him that I felt that God wanted me to tell him how much He loved him and how God had laid him on my heart to pray for him and I encouraged him to stay strong in this fight. I also said something to the effect that I believed he would overcome this and that God would use him in a very special way some day. Frankly, I don’t remember everything I said to him but I do know that God gave me the words to say and as scared as I was to go up to him and encourage him as I did (I do not normally go up to strangers and strike up conversations like this), I felt a strong urgency to talk to him and tell him I was praying for him. After that, I gave him a hug. Again, this is something I don’t do to strangers, but I felt led to do so at that particular moment.

He was very tall, stared straight ahead as I spoke and stood like a stone statue as I reached out and hugged him. His eyes did not budge and neither did the frown. I don’t even know if he realized what was going on or heard anything I said. To be honest, it was out of my comfort zone big time to say these things to a total stranger, much less hug one. I almost felt stupid for all of that afterwards, but felt so strongly led to do so beforehand, I still went through with it. Then I began to have doubts; you know, when you do the right thing though it was very difficult and uncomfortable but you did it anyway and then Satan beats you up for it. Then I began to overthink it and even began to talk myself into thinking I just made a fool out of myself…for a few minutes. Then I stood straight up, gave myself a crash course in Overcoming Doubt and moved on. I continued to pray for this young man every day.

A few months later, I went back and spoke again at the chapel service. Same young man was there. This time, the stony eyes and hard mouth were gone. There was a tiny hint of softness in his face and he actually seemed to be listening to what I was speaking on that particular night. If I remember correctly, he even shook my hand after my testimony and said thank you for the words I shared. Sometime after that, I went up to him again after a Sunday evening service and he looked like a completely different man…unrecognizable! He brightened up when I went over to him and he started talking so much I could hardly keep up. I am still stunned by the radical transformation that God did in his life!

Even though some people choose to remain stony-hearted, a few are reached by a single person who goes out of their comfort zone by sharing some encouraging words, reaching out with a hug and praying for them by name on a daily basis. If you notice someone like this, ask God to give you the courage to reach out to them in love. God could use you as the first stepping stone to break through their stony heart when nobody else would even dare try. Sometimes it takes a stranger with a burden to begin to break the walls of a stony heart just enough that they begin to open up their heart to God and allow Him to work on their heart the rest of the way.

This is only possible with God as He works through us when we are obedient to his call. Ezekiel 36:26 states, “I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.” Indeed, he can…and does!

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